Catholic funeral traditions

Catholic Funeral Traditions

A Catholic Funeral is a religious service that is held for someone who has passed away and was of the Catholic faith. The funeral service is important to the survivors, who believe that the soul continues to live after death. The service is usually held from two days to a week after death.


All Christians believe that depending on the life you lived, your soul continues on in either Heaven or Hell. Catholics, however, believe in a third destination. They believe in Purgatory, which is a place for souls who have committed forgivable sins during their lifetime and may eventually end up in Heaven.



The Catholic funeral is a time to appeal to God to be merciful on the deceased’s soul. You should expect a lot of prayers at a Catholic funeral.

Catholic Funeral Traditions

A Catholic funeral is traditionally held in a Catholic Church. The service is usually held by a Catholic priest who will deliver a sermon. Catholic funerals aren’t held on Sundays, although there can be an exception, occasionally. Sundays are reserved for regular church services.


What is different from other Christian funerals is that Catholics include a funeral mass, which symbolizes the resurrection of Christ.


Another tradition by the Catholic church is the holding of the wake. It could be held days before the funeral and it usually takes place at night. Some Catholic wakes can last for days or others can last for just a few hours. 

What to Wear to a Catholic Funeral?

A Catholic funeral is usually somber and respectful, and attendees are expected to dress accordingly. Black, semi-formal clothing is usually worn. Men should wear a suit and tie, while women should wear a black dress or pantsuit. If attendees do not own black clothes, they should wear the darkest semi-formal clothes they have. In the past, women have worn hats, but they are no longer required. Men should never wear a hat in church. Clothing should cover the shoulders, and not much jewelry should be worn. 

What Happens at a Catholic Funeral?
  • Introductory by the priest
  • Holy Water is sprinkled on the casket
  • A Pall is placed on the casket
  • Procession of the casket and family
  • Song and Prayers
  • Readings
  • Holy Communion (Mass)
  • More Prayers
  • Recession of the casket, family, and congregation
  • Prayers at Graveside

Although flowers are always appreciated, they should fit in with the somber church atmosphere. Normally only 1 -2 arrangements are carried into the catholic church. You will notice there is no casket spray. That’s because it is removed before entering the church so that the pall can be placed over the casket. The pall symbolized the white baptismal garment that is deceased received on the day of their Baptisms, and a sign of the Christian dignity of the person and that all are equal in the eyes of God.


Often when friends or family members want to speak a few words about the deceased, they do so at the wake, visitation or the reception following the service.



Visitors are encouraged to sign the guest register book at the funeral home or at the church. Charitable donations may also be given to the church or a charity. 

Catholic Funeral FAQs

  • Who should I contact first – the parish or the funeral home?

    Most often, the hospital, nursing home, hospice facility, or hospice nurse has already been made aware to call Aikens Funeral Home. If not, provide the appropriate person with our information. Then, when time allows, please call your parish or church to let them know of your loved one’s passing. Let them know to feel free to give us a call to discuss service details.

  • How do I reserve the church for a funeral?

    There are a number of variables that enter into scheduling a funeral: availability of the church, availability of a priest to celebrate, and coordinating family and guest travel plans. It is best to have us contact the church, or you may want to contact them during your arrangements conference with the funeral director. Aikens Funeral Home is extremely flexible because we know that arranging the date/ time can be complex as you consider family and friends traveling from out of town.

  • When does the parish celebrate funeral masses?

    In general, funerals are celebrated at various times. However, many churches celebrate weddings and other activities, so often times, the church can be reserved months in advance.

  • How do I plan a funeral? I’ve never had to do one before.

    Allow Aikens Funeral Home to work with the church, parish, priests, and others to ensure the details are planned in accordance with your desires. We would encourage you to call the priest celebrating the rites, as he may be able to help you to choose readings, select music, and, if helpful, make recommendations.

  • Where are the Funeral Rites celebrated?

    The Funeral Rites are more than just the Funeral Mass. There could be a Vigil service celebrated in one of our chapels the night before.  The Funeral Mass is almost always celebrated in the Church, and the Committal Rite is preferably celebrated at the graveside or mausoleum.

  • Can there be a viewing in the Church before the funeral? 

    Yes. However, that’s something we would coordinate with the church or priest. When viewing is done at the Church before the Funeral Mass begins it allows family and friends a time to console one another, to say final goodbyes, and to enter into the spirit of prayer.

  • What is a funeral Mass like?

    The funeral Mass follows the same pattern as a typical Mass with additional elements that draw attention to the place the deceased person had in the life of the mourners and, most especially, the Christian belief in resurrection. Some of these elements are: 


    • Covering the casket with a pall or white cloth which signifies the deceased life in Christ through Baptism. This is often done by family members;
    • Sprinkling the casket with holy water, also a remembrance of Baptism;
    • Placing Christian symbols on the covered casket. These may include a Bible or a Book of the Gospels (the part of the Bible which recalls the life and words of Jesus) and/or a crucifix.
  • Is there music at a funeral Mass?

    Yes. Special hymns are chosen to be part of the funeral Mass. These speak to God’s presence even in times of sorrow, of our hope in the resurrection, and other themes that allow the participants to pray in this difficult time. The church or parish’s music director can help with the selection of appropriate and meaningful hymns.

  • What else happens at a funeral Mass?

    Often special readings from sacred scripture are proclaimed. The Order of Christian Funerals offers a wide array of suggestions. Typically, there are one or two readings taken from both or either the Old and New Testament (Hebrew and Christian scriptures), a psalm (usually sung and also taken from the scriptures), and a Gospel reading.

  • Who may proclaim the readings?

    A Baptized Christian usually proclaims the first and second readings. A cantor usually proclaims the psalm, and an ordained minister (priest or deacon) proclaims the Gospel.

  • What are the possible Scripture Readings for a funeral Mass?

    Readings for a funeral mass can be found  here  at the US Catholic Conference of Bishops’s website.

  • May anyone beside the priest or deacon speak of the deceased during the funeral Mass?

    The funeral Mass provides the opportunity for a brief reflection on the life of the deceased so that those who have gathered in support of the family, but who may not know the deceased personally, will have a better appreciation for who this person was. Reflections are often also made in the chapel during the Vigil service.

  • Are there guidelines for this brief reflection?

    The purpose of the reflection is to draw attention to the deceased as his or her life bore witness to the Gospel of Jesus Christ. This is often best done in stories that are special to you and your loved one; stories that reveal the depths of the person you are remembering. It is always important to prepare! A rule of thumb is this: one piece of paper, one side, 1-inch margins, and 12-point print with 1½ line spacing will take about 5 minutes to deliver. You would not want to go much longer during the celebration in Mass.

  • Is cremation permitted by the Catholic Church?

    At one time, the Catholic Church did not permit cremation because the practice was associated with a direct denial of the resurrection of the body. However, since 1963, the Church has permitted cremation for the faithful whose hope is in the resurrection.

  • How are the Rites celebrated for someone who chooses cremation? 

    If you have chosen one of our Service and Cremation packages, the Rites are celebrated in the exact same manner, accept after the Funeral Mass, your loved one remains in our care and will be escorted to the crematory for immediate cremation.


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  • What is the Rite of Committal?

    The Rite of Committal is the third station of the Catholic funeral liturgy, after the Vigil (usually the day or night before the funeral) and the Funeral Mass (or Funeral Liturgy outside Mass). It is normally celebrated at the site of burial.


    The rite begins with an Invitation to Prayer, followed by a Scripture Verse, for which there are several options. Then comes the Prayer over the Place of Committal, with seven text options.  Next comes the Committal itself, for which there are also seven text options. After which come the Intercessions (four text options), the Lord’s Prayer, a Concluding Prayer (five), the Prayer over the People, with two forms of the final blessing, depending on whether the minister is a cleric or not, and a Dismissal. A song may conclude the Rite. Where it is the custom, some sign or gesture of leave-taking may be made.

  • Special Circumstances

    What rites can be used for miscarried or stillborn infants?

    “Funeral Rites may be celebrated for children whose parents intended them to be Baptized but who died before Baptism. In these celebrations, the Christian community entrusts the child to God’s all-embracing love.” (Order of Christian Funeral #237)

  • What Rites can be used for a suicide victim?

    This person is entrusted to God’s love and mercy and is therefore entitled to the usual Funeral Rites.

  • Can a funeral be celebrated if the person has been away from the Church for a long time?

    By virtue of Baptism, this person is entitled to the prayers of the Church, including the Funeral Rites.